Micawber,
I'm sorry to hear about frankly your terrible day. In my mind it should not be conducted in that manner.
The difference in my mind is perception, you can view the court date with trepidation and fear of being judged/scrutinised for your situation... With this view nothing positive is created and essentially you live in fear up until the court date.
I personally view this day as the day you walk in burdened with debt and social fear, only to leave with a fresh slate, a new life and a future full of positivity. The burden is gone!!
I hope that this is of help to other people worried about the day of the court... Of course it isn't a nice day, but ironically it is probably the best day of your life!
Best of luck!
Raphael Gilbert